Have you ever heard of the expression, "An Elephant in the Room?" "Elephant in the room" is an English idiom for an obvious truth that is being ignored or goes unaddressed. The idiomatic expression also applies to an obvious problem that no one wants to discuss.
It is based on the idea that an elephant in a room would be impossible to overlook; thus, people in the room who pretend the elephant is not there have chosen to concern themselves with small and irrelevant issues rather than deal with the looming big one.
What do you do when the "Elephant in the Room" is a family member that is over-bearing, narcissistic, hateful, and downright rude, not to mention sneaky and stalker-ish. How would you handle this "Elephant?"
I should also mention that this "Elephant" gets very mean and nasty when confronted. "It" likes to lie "its" way out of situations or turn them around to make the other person look like the guilty party. Or, "It" goes from family member to family member, spewing all kinds of non-truths that "It" has twisted to suit "its" purpose.
If this was the jungle, this type of beast would probably not survive long....the other elephants would get their fill of "It" and take care of the problem......
However, this is not the jungle; it is real life and the Elephant in the Room is not going anywhere. "It" has taken up residence in our lives, and this Elephant likes the control.
Any thoughts on this???
I agree this elephant in the room, is tough to handle. I do not know what to advise?ReplyDelete
ps Do your best, I guess
Oh boy! My family is going through some trials like this currently. Thanksgiving will be downright uncomfortable...ReplyDelete